How to change your mindset from negative to positive

In my last blog post, I wrote about how lockdown affected me personally, and the implications the pandemic had not just on my job but also others in the UK.

It could’ve been very easy for me to get myself into a bad-mood-rut, mope about all day and consume my body weight in biscuits.

But I decided not to do that. (Well, maybe a few biscuits, because, y’know).

Instead, I let myself have a moment, and then just get on with things.

I know not everybody does, but I believe everything happens for a reason, and that things turn out differently to how we expect them because we can’t control them.

When one opportunity closes, another opens, and although we don’t know when that next opportunity will be, we can’t just sit around and wait for it to happen.

So, how did I avoid the dark abyss of ‘limbo’ between jobs and the sad feelings that often go along with it?

I made a pact to change my mindset. And this is what I did.

1. Positive thoughts, positive mind

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Whenever you catch yourself thinking negatively, whether that be about your job, your relationships or even your body image, recognise that these thoughts don’t necessarily reflect reality.

One thing I learnt through Headspace was to imagine your thoughts as passing cars. Observe them from a distance and acknowledge they are there.

Then, as they pass by, let them go.

It all sounds a bit wishy-washy, doesn’t it? But recognising when these bad thoughts come into our minds means that we can do something about them.

“Oh, hello, bad thought. So you hate my hair today? That’s fine, you’re just a thought and have no influence on reality. Goodbye.”

2. Punishing yourself won’t help

Whether things don’t work out quite right, you feel down about something, or maybe just feel pretty rubbish about the takeaway you ate last night, it’s important NOT. TO. PUNISH. YOURSELF.

Life happens, y’know? Everyone has good days and bad days, and it’s important to look after ourselves when our mental health needs it. But punishing yourself just to keep your conscience happy won’t help your mood at all.

In fact, more often than not, you’ll end up more miserable than you were before.

So, take the time you need to get some space, and then move forwards.

3. Have something to look forward to


“But there’s nothing to do at the moment!” “The UK has been in lockdown!” “I can’t see all my friends!”

I get it, it sucks right now. But I’m not talking about booking a fandabidozi holiday somewhere hot, I’m talking about the little things that make us happy.

Perhaps a new podcast episode you love listening to comes out soon, maybe you could plan to meet a friend in the park for a catch-up, or perhaps you could get a takeaway at the end of the week?

Don’t deprive yourself of the things you like doing, and focus on making those things happen.

4. Have a break from social media, especially Instagram

If you’re anything like me, your brain just LOVES to compare yourself to others. And where’s the best place to do that? Social media. Especially Instagram.

It’s important to remember, though, that people generally only ever post the ‘good bits’ of their lives. Some people even use editing software to create unrealistic representations of themselves.

It’s not real life.

So, if you’re finding that these social sites are getting you down, go through your ‘following’ list and remove any accounts that make you feel this way. Then step away from your phone for a bit.

You might be surprised at how much your screen-time impacts your mindset.

Amy Louise Writes reasons to put down your phone

What do you do to bring yourself out of a mood?




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